During my last visit to Nigeria, my mother insisted we stopped by at a dear Pastor’s house. We did, we prayed, we left. But before we did that, he looked at me and said, “You love books. I can see you love reading. Hmmmm I’ll make sure you get some. I’ll send them through a friend. God bless.” and so we left.
He remained true to his promise: a few weeks later I received the books upon my sisters’ visit to Vienna. A bundle of roughly five books, which I put aside.. until yesterday. I picked up the first one titled, “Questions & Answers for Bachelors & Spinsters” and could not but either shake my head, cover my face, or laugh out loud.
I am not here to share much of its content, as I’d most definitely stands accused as unbeliever, but this one Q&A I will share. Don’t you worry, I’m going somewhere..
Question: I am engaged to a Christian sister for 10 years now and my fiancée is 41 years old. The problem we are facing is that her father being an unbeliever insists we should visit the ancestral shrine and give the family alcoholic drinks. I am now 42 years old; I love this sister and have strong convictions that she’s the one God has chosen for me. I am now between two choices either to go ahead and marry or pray for another Christian lady. I need your help.
Answer: You have taken things lightly and I couldn’t pick from you whether you have sought counsel from men of God, sincere Christian counselors, your own pastor or hears. The devil has only one ministry: to steal, to kill and destroy (John 10:10). Your time is being stolen from you. Stop him immediately!
We have handled quite some numbers of such problems here, and the outcome had been miraculous and successful. Satan can use parents to hinder one in life. They are to be respected but not to the extent of co-operating with them to ruin your life. As long as you remain ignorant, Satan will be happy. Stop him today.”
Needless to say, that last paragraph nailed it! Well, more like it nailed me.. to the ground! Going over and over and over again was simply not enough. I had to literally write those words down on paper and consume it.. figuratively, anyway.
They are to be respected but not to the extent of co-operating with them to ruin your life.
I really don’t know whether this could have been said any better/ differently, but rahhhh.. I am a firm believer of respecting and obeying one’s parents, but I think that final statement just summed it all up.. wisdom is the principal thing. Follow God and use some sense! I don’t know why people like hiding their inability to make solid, mature, and informed decisions behind the mantle of “obedience”. Inability is no excuse.
There are a million and one examples I could use on how “kids” have allowed their parents “rule/ruin” their lives, but today, I shall leave that to you!
How much “obedience” is too much? Is there such a thing as “thus far and no further” when it comes to bowing to your parents’ wishes and demands? Is there a respectful way of “showing disrespect”?
You tell me..