Conflicts Within..

I’m about to go get a few passport-sized photographs taken. I think it’s about the right time to renew my passport and national ID card. I thought of getting a professional picture taken for my new CV to – a requirement here, you see: letting hiring managers put a face to the name/application. I’m somewhat unsure…

Cheating Husbands: Mistresses and Secret Kids

Last night a friend contacted me with the shocking revelation of a “secret child”. Not hers, that is, but that of a close relative. A couple of years ago this revelation would have shocked me and caused my heart to beat just a little faster. Not last night, however. I sighed, reflected, and went about my…

The Treasure Found..

It’s interesting to see just how distracted we all can be; how distracting life gets, really. Just yesterday, however, while enjoying a solitary walk again, basking in our last days of summer and taking in Vienna’s clean fresh air, I was once again reminded of both the sanctity and the brevity of life. I reminisced …

Not Even Doormats are Dormant

A couple of weeks ago I really needed help. And while it was hardly a “do or die” affair, my need did create an unhealthy and uncomfortable number of sleepless nights and restless days. From waking up mid-night, to an increased heart-rate and shortness of breath, I simply knew it was time to take action: to…

Just (Keep) Do(ing) It!

A couple of days ago I decided to take a walk round the beautiful city of Vienna, enjoying some fresh air and beautiful final sights before heading back North to Sweden. As I walked about, I was careful to look around and lock eyes: if there was someone in need and I could help, I would. Eventually I did…

Excuse Me, Lock Eyes!

The day I realized I lacked no material things, was the very same sub-zero-degrees day I nearly locked eyes with this middle-aged Austrian man on the train with no shoes. His barefooted state was not a choice, I knew. Feeling compassionate, I closed my eyes, walked up to him, asked him if I could buy…

Let It Go and Laugh!

I find this past year to have been particularly stressful: emotionally, mentally, financially, physically, and spiritually I was drained. Be it pressure from within or without, I found myself – more often than not – choosing to give in (even if only for a while). Looking back, I’m extremely grateful to have made it through –…

The Grand Scheme of Things..

I lost two beautiful posts simply by failing to translate my mental notes into words. Numerous insights I had wished to share disappeared as I chose to trust the capabilities of my mind over my experiences of forgetfulness. I thought I had learnt to manage my inspirations, to store them in a well of delight,…

Delayed Reaction..

When I cycled back to my dorm this afternoon, the sunny weather was a perfect reflection of my mood. A brief night and successful presentation behind me, I looked forward to lying down for a while and rest, before heading out again. However, the warm weather no longer reflects my mood. It now mocks me. Although…

A Different Kind of Art

Sometimes it’s really nice to bump into an old friend or long-lost/gone acquaintance. To catch up, to bond, to simply continue where you left off. To forget how long it has been since you spoke last and simply reconnect; rekindle the friendship that once was so strong and see if you can perhaps strengthen that…

What a Broken Heart Feels Like..

It’s funny I would write this. Well, what’s funny really isn’t so much that I would write this; but that I would write this about this person, ..about her. The case of this broken heart of mine. This isn’t so much a letter to he, as it is a processing of thoughts, for I’ve been thinking…

Being Fed Up..

I’m currently so occupied, I’ve had absolutely no time for writing; I haven’t had the time to think and reflect much either. I’ve just had no compelling desire to share. You know what, to be completely honest; I’ve simply been fed up. I’ve literally been fed with numerous tasks stemming from work, university, my relationship.. I…

Tears | When your heart tears..

It is precisely how I felt last night. It seemed like a dream. Almost. “Are you sure?” I was tempted to ask. But of course she was. I could see it in her eyes. You wouldn’t make such a call just like that. Telling you a friend had just passed. Just like that..? I guess…

When Doing Wrong is Right..

He tried to come up with an explanation; a justification for his wrongful action. You see, at times it is okay to bend the rules; adjust them. Sometimes, when you find grey areas, you step right in. Not forever, but for a season. No judgements, just grace. And if that wouldn’t prevail, then mercy. I…

A Refreshingly Simple Perspective…

As I sat at my departure gate awaiting my boarding, I envisioned my plane was Lagos- rather than London-bound. Oh, just how exciting that would have be! Having terribly missed the hustle and bustle of that city, I did want to go back, if only for a day. Lagos is just so alive. A city that…

A Year of Rest…

It’s a new year and I am grateful for the excitement I feel within. The excitement of knowing that it will be an awesome year! Why/How, you ask? Well, simply because I will make sure of it! I am determined to make this year an amazing one. You know how you write down resolutions, make…

The Gift of Faith

A couple of weeks ago, when asked what I was especially grateful for in 2014, people thought I was being religious when I said “the gift of faith”. I wasn’t. I was being serious. Just a couple of days ago, I once again had time to reflect upon the year, its ups and downs, my…

Prices & Tags

Earlier this year I made some very profound changes. Changes spanning across numerous areas, aspects and facets of my life. For the sake of this post, let’s just call it My Extreme (Personal) Make-over. Earlier in the year (and I know, to those of you who read my previous post, this might sound somewhat contradictory; but…

Cash Point. Check-Point? Gun Point!

Yesterday I woke up with a profound sense of gratitude. I was excited. Simply excited about life. My last days at work, the beginning of a new journey. Back to student life. Back to autumn, cold and winter. Back to going home. I was simply excited. Yesterday, I had no needs. I felt no lack….

The Incubator

Just a few days ago, I once again thought about women. The woman-man, that is: the man with a womb. The person- be it male or female- with the ability to conceive, nurture, give birth to, grow/train and protect dreams. Dreams are really not very different from children: They are mentally conceived: a vision, picture of what could (or…

No Longer Chasing..

I dreamt about him last night. Yes, him. Again. But this time, I woke up differently. Indifferent. Having given up a night for him, I refused to give him a(ny more) moment(s) of my day(s). Determinedly. No longer chasing. And so I thought about things I would rather think of. Consciously making the effort to…

This Single Life.. II

Most well-meaning people are just liars. Most often- I have come to see, understand and believe- however, that lies are told with good intentions. Well, that is, not ill-intentions anyway. Most often- when people lie- they really just mean to protect you, shield you from the truth. Bitterness. And so they bring tidings that result in fake…

Singing Songs..

Sometimes I find it difficult to pray. I just don’t know what to say. Tell Him how I feel, share my pain? Sometimes it all just seems so in vain. But that’s okay, because right in the midst of not wanting to share ME, I am forced to remember Him. Right in the midst of feeling…

Exhausted..?

“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.” – Martin Luther King Jr.

Normal Days..

On normal days I do not worry about what others might think or see. I feel no shame or insecurity. On normal days, I’m happy, I’m free. On days like these, I’m at ease with being me. On normal days I do not worry about tomorrow. I feel no gloom, no condemnation. I smile, I laugh….

#BringBackOurGirls

Of recent I was reminded of a beautifully deep quote, Do not look upon me, because I am dark,Because the sun has tanned me.My mother’s sons were angry with me;They made me the keeper of the vineyards,But my own vineyard I have not kept. How often do we find ourselves busy doing all but the right things? Misplaced priorities….

The Death of The Church

I know a whole lot about churches. You see, I grew up catholic. Okay, that’s not totally true. I think it better to say I attended catholic kindergartens, pre-schools, primary schools and secondary schools. They were simply the best. They usually are- run by the church. And, as a schools run by nuns, masses and…

Money 101: Personal Finance and Money Management Basics

I know you really do not want to hear this; and especially not from me, but your parents were right: START SAVING NOW! I know your parents were right about this, because mine were, and parents really are not that different from each other. The chunk of us have parents who worked hard enough for…

The Blueprint of Me

There are so many things going on in my mind right now, so permit a scattered post. An outward reflection of my inner self; my heart and my mind. The blueprint of ME. You know how you make a mistake, go astray, then again find your way? You know the hurt that you create and the…

Food for Thought..

Treat a man as he appears to be and you make him worse. But treat a man as if he already were what he potentially could be, and you make him what he should be. – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe How do people feel around you? As John C Maxwell beautifully put it, the key to…

Masterclass with Chef Fregz!

On Saturday the Food Network (our connect group for foodies at myWaterbrook) had an awesome time with Gbubemi Fregene, or as he is popularly known: Chef Fregz! Quite a few of you would have had the privilege of enjoying one of his amazing creations at the Chef Fregz Special which he typically hosts at the GET Arena…

Back to Square ONE..?

I remember a conversation I had with a good friend (actually my oldest friend: I’ve known her since I was two years old) a couple of months ago. She was sharing that she was unsure about what to do with her life now that she felt she knew what she should have done ages ago….

A Time to Laugh and a Time to Cry

I thought about some things today. Well, I generally do a lot of thinking, but I did so especially yesterday and today.. There is one who wants to come out top of his class, Another who simply wishes to pass his exams. There is one who wishes she was dating, Another who wished she could…

Call Me “Small Mommy”

A friend’s mom passed away just a few days ago; and naturally- as you would assume and indeed expect any human being to feel about this- she is grieving. ..and it made me think: The cause of her grief.. No one ever really gives birth wishing to cause a beloved one grief. No one ever…

Things I Like to <3..

We all have things we love.. Food we eat more of than we should. Clothes we wear. Places we go to. Friends we talk to. But there are also those things we think we could love if only allowed to. Call them dreams, wishes, hopes, aspirations. There are a few things I have had the…

New Things and Places | Pleasure

I’m just about to shut down this pc, leave my office, head to church; but before I do that I want to share this.. ..a single reflection. A couple of years ago, when I was – well, a bit younger and probably not any less smart than I am now but definitely less independent- I…

An Open Letter

I am in tears and yet I smile..at my little yet strong broken heart. You took it and tore it in pieces.Sat on it and spat on it. And yet I have come to tell you that I forgive you.That I love you and that I miss you. I am saying this openly .. because I…

Stay in Your Lane..

One of the most annoying things about living in Lagos is really the infamous Lagos traffic. It’s sheer frustration. No one really abides by rules.. And when I say no one, I really mean absolutely totally no one but a handful of individuals who have consciously chosen to apply some sense even when on the…

The Fear of Offence

How many of us get excited about new ideas, motivated by speakers, inspired by write-ups.. but do absolutely nothing about it/things/ourselves? How many of us are quick to react, quick to commit ourselves to doing certain things, but even quicker to throw them all away yet again? When I encouraged you to step out of…

It Matters Whom You Marry | Quotes

I just came across thechristianpundit and so totally fell in love with a number of their posts; one of them being It Matters Whom You Marry. While the first one addresses the women, the second one addresses the men-folk. I’ve written much on love, relationships and marriage; so today, I want to encourage you to…

Last Words | Last Deeds

I was just listening to Aaliyah’s tribute song “I miss you” and was forced to experience some rather uncomfortable feelings and entertain some rather worrisome thoughts.. What if I died.. tomorrow? I’ve never really had a problem with death per se, I’ve simply never really had to deal with it/him/her. Strange encounters that I have…

One Forgives to The Degree That One Loves

I stumbled upon The Lovumentary just a few moments ago and thought to share a few things/truths. Nate Bagley, who was sick of hearing love stories that fell into one of two categories — scandal and divorce, and unrealistic fairytale, took his savings, toured the country, and interviewed real couples on all issues related to love…

Do Something Radical!

You know how they say All roads leads to Rome?  Well, literally (obviously) not all roads take you to Rome. Some take you to Paris, Vienna, London.. Lagos; while others take you nowhere at all. They stop right in the middle of nowhere (a non-location?), or in an environment you had absolutely no business walking into…

Two Words

Many attempts to teach are destroyed by saying too much. Unfortunately I’ve forgotten who said that, but I dare say (in my own personal and individual honest opinion) it is a rather indisputable fact. So, If you could write a note to your younger self, what would you say in TWO WORDS?

Don’t Walk In My Head With Your Dirty Feet – Leo Buscaglia

Just earlier today I read Tobi Atte’s article “Make Your Wife Go Crazy Over You… Without Spending Money” on BellaNaija (read it here). Having read the post, I naturally scrolled down to read the comments, as – with most Nigerian blogs- the commentators are simply always the crème de la crème. Anyway, so women were going…