Conflicts Within..

I’m about to go get a few passport-sized photographs taken. I think it’s about the right time to renew my passport and national ID card. I thought of getting a professional picture taken for my new CV to – a requirement here, you see: letting hiring managers put a face to the name/application. I’m somewhat unsure…

When I Die..

The other day I overheard a conversation between  a Christian and a moralist – it was a conversation centered around what happened when (or after) we died. While both started off on pretty much the same foot – life as a continous development of self, the importance of living a moral life, and the consequences…

The Treasure Found..

It’s interesting to see just how distracted we all can be; how distracting life gets, really. Just yesterday, however, while enjoying a solitary walk again, basking in our last days of summer and taking in Vienna’s clean fresh air, I was once again reminded of both the sanctity and the brevity of life. I reminisced …

What Really Matters..

Earlier today (actually just a few minutes ago) I got a call from an acquaintance challenging my “liking” of a Facebook post. I was startled. “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” – Matth. 11:28 I was confused. What exactly was the issue? Well, did I…

He watches over His own..

Just yesterday something rather interesting happened. A friend of mine and I decided to go impromptu-shopping and I misplaced my bank card. Okay, back to the start.. So, I bumped into a friend of mine after work yesterday, on my way to the mall to update my make-up collection (which literally only consists of lip…

A Piece of My Mind..

Don’t you just get frustrated at times? I mean, like really frustrated.. with people, with God!? Don’t you just want to give Him a piece of your mind sometimes? Well, I certainly do. Although I do tell myself, “What’s the point exactly, seeing as He sees and reads and understands your mind.?”, it hardly ever…

No Longer Searching..

I was rummaging through some unpublished drafts of months and years passed, when I realized how truly satisfying it was to write down your thoughts and share your challenges and/or experiences. Truth is, from the standpoint of now, my previously published post is untrue. For right now I am missing no one and am longing for nothing. Right…

The Things People Never Really See..

A couple of weeks ago I realized that, while it took me a lot of personal convincing and motivating and scolding at first, now – come rain, sun or even snow – getting my butt to the gym was simply not an option any-more, it had become second nature. This, in turn, caused me to re-examine…

When Doing Wrong is Right..

He tried to come up with an explanation; a justification for his wrongful action. You see, at times it is okay to bend the rules; adjust them. Sometimes, when you find grey areas, you step right in. Not forever, but for a season. No judgements, just grace. And if that wouldn’t prevail, then mercy. I…

A Refreshingly Simple Perspective…

As I sat at my departure gate awaiting my boarding, I envisioned my plane was Lagos- rather than London-bound. Oh, just how exciting that would have be! Having terribly missed the hustle and bustle of that city, I did want to go back, if only for a day. Lagos is just so alive. A city that…

A Year of Rest…

It’s a new year and I am grateful for the excitement I feel within. The excitement of knowing that it will be an awesome year! Why/How, you ask? Well, simply because I will make sure of it! I am determined to make this year an amazing one. You know how you write down resolutions, make…

Prices & Tags

Earlier this year I made some very profound changes. Changes spanning across numerous areas, aspects and facets of my life. For the sake of this post, let’s just call it My Extreme (Personal) Make-over. Earlier in the year (and I know, to those of you who read my previous post, this might sound somewhat contradictory; but…

Cash Point. Check-Point? Gun Point!

Yesterday I woke up with a profound sense of gratitude. I was excited. Simply excited about life. My last days at work, the beginning of a new journey. Back to student life. Back to autumn, cold and winter. Back to going home. I was simply excited. Yesterday, I had no needs. I felt no lack….

The Incubator

Just a few days ago, I once again thought about women. The woman-man, that is: the man with a womb. The person- be it male or female- with the ability to conceive, nurture, give birth to, grow/train and protect dreams. Dreams are really not very different from children: They are mentally conceived: a vision, picture of what could (or…

The Message of Invincible Consolation

The fiery furnaces are there by God’s direct permission. It is misleading to imagine that we are developed in spite of our circumstances; we are developed because of them. It is mastery in circumstances that is needed, not mastery over them.

Development, Not Fulfilment

Leadership Development, Not Fulfillment “Leaders can’t afford to make fools of themselves, gulping wine and swilling beer, lest, hung over, they don’t know right from wrong, and the people who depend on them are hurt.”  Proverbs 31:4-5 (The Message) Beginning in the late 60s and early 70s, people began talking about “finding themselves,” meaning that they…

The Greatest Good..

according to Benjamin Disraeli, ..you can do for another is not just to share your riches, but to reveal to him his own. Just a couple of days ago- a week and two days to be precise- a friend asked me what would or could make me fall in love with someone. I smiled at…

Love, Romance.. Marriage!

Just a couple of days ago I had this heated discussion with my Head of Department of the Discipleship Training Institute of my church. Our topic of discussion: marriage. He had asked the lady seated beside me – a friend of mine – whether she could marry a Catholic, and was appalled at her resounding response of…

Presence

Sometimes pain isn’t necessarily bad. A sign of His displeasure and absence. Sometimes pleasure isn’t necessarily good. A sign of His commendation and pleasure. Sometimes pain and pleasure simple are. I guess I am once again reminded- call it a Stone of Remembrance- that neither pleasure nor pain are permanent. ..and that right in the…

The Death of The Church

I know a whole lot about churches. You see, I grew up catholic. Okay, that’s not totally true. I think it better to say I attended catholic kindergartens, pre-schools, primary schools and secondary schools. They were simply the best. They usually are- run by the church. And, as a schools run by nuns, masses and…

Response/Rely-Ability

One of my greatest frustrations with living in Nigeria- amidst Nigerians (allow my generalization)- has been their inability to complete work to a high/basic/expected standard. Reliability. Especially when working with a team of intelligent people and delegating tasks according to stated skills, I find it extremely saddening to find that work has to be re-checked,…

..and God said, “Let’s play!”

Sometimes I really wonder just how intelligent intelligent men really are. How intelligent, knowledgeable, wise, understanding insightful intelligent Christians are. I wondered about human thought-processes, conceptions, ideas. I thought about the spheres of life. The earth and the spirit world. Life and death. Angels and demons. ..and I came to powerfully humbling conclusions. Some of…

Tweet-Sized Opinions

One of my most favourite quotes of recent times simply has to be Harlan Ellison’s “You are not entitled to your opinion. You are entitled to your informed opinion. No one is entitled to be ignorant.” Although it sounds a bit harsh, I cannot but second that statement. Many of us seek to be heard over hearing….

So uncontrollably in Love!!

You know this feeling.. how you get butterflies at the thought of someone you hold very dearly? How your heart skips a beat at memories remembered and shared, and future-possibilities hoped for, desired? You know how your longing emotions are so powerful and strong, so over-whelming and over-powering at times, the earth seems to simply stand…

The Blueprint of Me

There are so many things going on in my mind right now, so permit a scattered post. An outward reflection of my inner self; my heart and my mind. The blueprint of ME. You know how you make a mistake, go astray, then again find your way? You know the hurt that you create and the…

More Food for Thought..

God’s grace has a drenching about it. A wildness about it. A white-water, riptide, turn-you-upside-downness about it. Grace comes after you. It rewires you. From insecure to God-secure. From regret-riddled to better-because-of-it. From afraid-to-die to ready-to-fly. Grace is the voice that calls us to change and gives us the power to pull it off. – Max…

Love is Always There.. Somewhere

There are two things I find particularly attractive about the concept of friendship: honesty and loyalty. The beauty of honesty lies in the face of truth; while the beauty of loyalty lies in companionship. I like to believe I am a rather good friend to have.. I am honest, and well.. always there. But I…

Call Me “Small Mommy”

A friend’s mom passed away just a few days ago; and naturally- as you would assume and indeed expect any human being to feel about this- she is grieving. ..and it made me think: The cause of her grief.. No one ever really gives birth wishing to cause a beloved one grief. No one ever…

When Things Get Tough

It’s amazing how rough & tough things get when you choose to step outside of conventionality, asking Him to add some extra to your ordinary. It’s quite amazing how rough & tough things get when you step outside of the box and add some super to the natural. It really is all too exciting. Of recent…

Stay in Your Lane..

One of the most annoying things about living in Lagos is really the infamous Lagos traffic. It’s sheer frustration. No one really abides by rules.. And when I say no one, I really mean absolutely totally no one but a handful of individuals who have consciously chosen to apply some sense even when on the…

The Fear of Offence

How many of us get excited about new ideas, motivated by speakers, inspired by write-ups.. but do absolutely nothing about it/things/ourselves? How many of us are quick to react, quick to commit ourselves to doing certain things, but even quicker to throw them all away yet again? When I encouraged you to step out of…

It Matters Whom You Marry | Quotes

I just came across thechristianpundit and so totally fell in love with a number of their posts; one of them being It Matters Whom You Marry. While the first one addresses the women, the second one addresses the men-folk. I’ve written much on love, relationships and marriage; so today, I want to encourage you to…

Last Words | Last Deeds

I was just listening to Aaliyah’s tribute song “I miss you” and was forced to experience some rather uncomfortable feelings and entertain some rather worrisome thoughts.. What if I died.. tomorrow? I’ve never really had a problem with death per se, I’ve simply never really had to deal with it/him/her. Strange encounters that I have…

One Forgives to The Degree That One Loves

I stumbled upon The Lovumentary just a few moments ago and thought to share a few things/truths. Nate Bagley, who was sick of hearing love stories that fell into one of two categories — scandal and divorce, and unrealistic fairytale, took his savings, toured the country, and interviewed real couples on all issues related to love…

Whispers from My Heart

Call it balance. Sometimes unexplainable things happen. I say unexplainable because- although you try to explain what’s going on to people- you know that no one really gets it, no one really fully understands. But that’s okay. I just feel like being real and honest, transparent, readable, naked tonight.. Tonight I want to share some…

Diagnosed with Cancers..

I promise you, I had absolutely no idea today was World Cancer Day, when I got ready to share yet another personal story of my journey upon mother earth with you.. * * * They’ve diagnosed breast cancer, I was told. And if that wasn’t enough, ovarian cancer too. Early stages, apparently, so there wasn’t…

Can I Ask You Something..?

On our way to work this morning, I remembered a group of brothers introduced to me by a close friend of mine a couple of months ago. The first, a pilot flying private jets only. The second, a high-ranking navy officer. The third, a journalist for CNN, or was it the Sahara Reporters? Either way,…

Excuse me, but… may I touch You?

My mom says I’ve never liked being touched. And she’s right. I don’t appreciate people touching any part of me, well, that is.. the physical me anyway. My body is (now) sacred. I prefer handshakes over hugs; friendly smiles over kisses. I think, the only two exceptions I really ever make are either when I’m…

A Vision of the Lost..

On one of my recent journeys, as I gazed from the coach window, I was led into a train of thought concerning the condition of the multitudes around me. They were living carelessly in the most open and shameless rebellion against God, without a thought for their eternal welfare. As I looked out of the…

What are YOU Feeling Like?!

Just a couple of days ago, I made the mistake of giving the wrong person some attention. Well, maybe it wasn’t a mistake as such, but rather a necessity; for the sake of this post, perhaps. Our conversation went something like this.. He: Hey, Vicky darling. Baby, I’ve missed you! I: Hey hey. It’s been…

Harsh Words from a Loving Friend..?

We all want to be relevant in a way. Have a voice, have a say. We all want to make a contribution and be acknowledged, respected- even admired- for it; and that’s perfectly okay. Yesterday, however, I was thinking about where to draw the line..? I strongly believe humanity was purposefully created to fulfil and…

Strange Words from Familiar Voices

The Lord’s been taking me on a very interesting journey. He’s been very good to me, He’s caused me to see and experience things I never knew I would or could, and yet here I stand.. strong. You know, as the year comes to an end, we typically reflect about the year that just went…

Guilty as Charged..?

“Anyway, so yeah, I understood that it would be difficult for him to stay in a relationship without sex. I mean, we were both young good-looking adults in love. Let’s show and share the love we profess, right? After all, that’s what the world keeps telling us. And mind you, he was a Christian too!…