MoU: Friendship

Last night, at around 3 am, I decided to call my Lady J. If there was someone I could call at 3 am, someone who would bail me out at such unholy an hour, it was her. Sure no lives were at risk and no investments at stake; but it was urgent enough for me. Although I had called…

Loving Lovely London

If there is one thing I am constantly reminded of, it is the fact that I am LOVED. With all the tragedies that are happening around the world, it has sadly become very easy to forget just how blessed one truly is. We hear heartbreaking stories of pain, loss, natural disasters and man-made conflicts, and fail…

Trips to Öland

It’s been such a long time since I shared anything on here, and so – in the spirit of gratitude – I’ve decided to share again today. Unsure of whether I have already announced it: I have moved to Sweden to embark on yet another study programme, and I’m so far loving it. From the…

This Sister of Mine..

With all the disasters, massacres, and general distress around the world and its affairs, I’ve been thinking about death a lot, naturally. The natural consequence of what follows actions, a natural reaction. A reaction to things that ought (not) to be. Have you noticed how the media shapes your thoughts and emotions? How the media…

Tears | When your heart tears..

It is precisely how I felt last night. It seemed like a dream. Almost. “Are you sure?” I was tempted to ask. But of course she was. I could see it in her eyes. You wouldn’t make such a call just like that. Telling you a friend had just passed. Just like that..? I guess…

#Throwback Wednesday

Just before returning to Vienna a few weeks ago, my mom dropped a suitcase here in Lagos. A case packed with baby clothes.. our baby clothes, that she had kept over the years; or rather: all these years! Apparently she shipped the box down to Nigeria a few years ago, and now -seeing as we are all…

Pole-Dancing Bridesmaids

After mid-week service last week, our pastor made a somewhat unusual announcement, reminding the ushers of why it was important to constantly be at alert and ward off any potential threats; ie. the distribution of unholy invitations/flyers. Turns out a group of people thought it fit to hand out “pole dancing classes”-flyers to church folks….

Sumptuous London | Celebrations at Gilgamesh

Part II of Sola (that’s my sister)’s surprise for Demola (that’s her husband) was a surprise birthday lunch at Gilgamesh in Camden. (Yea, I guess we all have something for that tiny little spot in North London..) Unfortunately, however, the surprise didn’t quite turn out as hoped/expected, as it was once again disclosed to the…

Colourful London | Paintballing in Camden..?

My days in London have been super busy and hectic, but a lot of fun so far! Prior to my trip to Paris I went to Camden (as stated in a previous post) and did some shopping at the absolutely wonderful Stables Market. Although I did not take many pictures of my new possessions, I did of…

Diagnosed with Cancers..

I promise you, I had absolutely no idea today was World Cancer Day, when I got ready to share yet another personal story of my journey upon mother earth with you.. * * * They’ve diagnosed breast cancer, I was told. And if that wasn’t enough, ovarian cancer too. Early stages, apparently, so there wasn’t…

Beautiful Lagos | Lages Babes..

I had quite the weekend! It was filled with activities, laughter, fun.. and pictures! From the jazz night at the Banana Island Patisserie Friday night, to my usual Bible Study with a new cherished friend, a hangout and love-feast with some folks from church on Saturday, dining out, and games night at a friend’s home,…

What are YOU Feeling Like?!

Just a couple of days ago, I made the mistake of giving the wrong person some attention. Well, maybe it wasn’t a mistake as such, but rather a necessity; for the sake of this post, perhaps. Our conversation went something like this.. He: Hey, Vicky darling. Baby, I’ve missed you! I: Hey hey. It’s been…

Beautiful Vienna..

Alright so, I travelled back hOme over the Christmas/ New Year break and had an absolutely awesome time! It was a beautiful relaxing and joyous family-reunion (minus shOwdem, sadly) and as there was a newby in our midst- the latest addition to the family clan, Gb- we did quite a bit of touring/ sightseeing. You…

Harsh Words from a Loving Friend..?

We all want to be relevant in a way. Have a voice, have a say. We all want to make a contribution and be acknowledged, respected- even admired- for it; and that’s perfectly okay. Yesterday, however, I was thinking about where to draw the line..? I strongly believe humanity was purposefully created to fulfil and…

A Rough Arrangement of my Scattered Thoughts

”Courage is not the absence of fear but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear.” Sounds true, rather smart, actually. Apparently Ambrose Redmon said that. Well, I don’t know who he is: I did not know then, I do not know now. I deliberately chose to go against my usual self (for the sake…

Akobi ti d’agba oo!!

Today is a special day.. It’s Akobi’s birthday!! Akobi, the womb-opener, the first-born. The one who stands, perhaps, as a symbol for first-fruit. That which you believed, waited for, received, and re-dedicate to the Lord. That’s what my sister was.. is. A seed sown back. And so, today I celebrate. Not just my sister, but…

From The Heart

Today I’m sharing a piece by a little friend of mine. I simply told her to write from the heart. * * * Sometimes I think I am just weird. Other times I am sure I am mean and emotionless and I do not have a heart. And occasionally, I think I am the best…

An Unusual (Fl)air of Honesty and (Im)modesty

Some pretty interesting things have happened over the past couple of days. I wasn’t sure what name to give this post initially, as I had a couple of working titles; but I shall try and work them into this post as best I can. I think I’m a really cool person. At least I think so most…

Friends for Life..?

It must have been about two weeks ago I put our picture up on BB. “Our” picture being a picture of both of us. A silly one. I loved it, totally. Having skipped through some old picture(file)s on my phone, I didn’t think it much of a deal when I decided “we” would be my…

Threesomes in Marriages

The games girls play. I wanted to talk to him. Of course I did. But beyond that, I wanted him to desperately want to talk to me. He had sent a message and I had read it, but I wasn’t going to reply.. not yet anyway. But then again, I didn’t want him to think I…

Been There | Done That

I’m not a bad person, you know. I know I said, and smiled encouragingly, Whatever made you think you were? It came as a response to an exceedingly kind gesture of his, Oh wow, thank you! That was very thoughtful of you. I really do appreciate it! And he sat in silence for a while….

That Chapter..

I’m not a very emotional person. I’m sure you’ve all figured that out. I can be super passionate, considerate, empathetic and even sympathetic.. but I am not emotional. I am rational. I’m a thinker. I make sense, not emotions. I am not emotional.. Well, that is.. unless I am. Unless I get emotional, I am…

Care? Then Dare To SHARE..

Status: It’s complicated? And really, as complicated as it gets; and then, not really that. Life. Work. Relationships. Circumstances. Situations. They. You. We. I. Complexities wherever we look. It is as simple as that: complications are a vital part of life. And yet we all seek to run from them.. All the time. As often…

A State of Constant Desire..

Sometimes I truly marvel at just how accurate the Bible is. We tend to disagree with things we don’t understand; things we’ve not yet personally experienced; things that seem strange or foreign to us. We are all like that. I still am, sometimes… Denying the existence of things, simply because my two huge eye(ball)s have…

Now Between Two Choices..

During my last visit to Nigeria, my mother insisted we stopped by at a dear Pastor’s house. We did, we prayed, we left. But before we did that, he looked at me and said, “You love books. I can see you love reading. Hmmmm I’ll make sure you get some. I’ll send them through a…

First Wife

I don’t know why I feel the need to share this, but I do; and so I shall.. This post might absolutely or again not at all have a point; but that hardly matters. Head > Heart or Heart > Head? * * * Love is a funny thing, you know. I’m sure you agree. I’m…

Your Own Shall Be Next

Exciting times! I’m in London right now; having an awesome- and very busy- time preparing for friday’s event: my sister Sola’s wedding! Just a few weeks ago we were all (all, being my nuclear family minus baby bro, he had exams, and a few other hundreds) in Nigeria, celebrating her traditional wedding; and now we…

Why You Should (NOT) Have Kids

I was going to raise this topic some time ago, just wasn’t sure on how exactly to start.. The other day I went swimming and I watched a father’s interaction with his daughter. It was heart-breaking.. literally. After having swum a few lapses with his mate, the man’s 13-year old daughter joined them in the…

I Think, Therefore I Am…Really?

We’ve all head or read of them: earth, water, fire and air. But how many of us have given it any more thought? Today, I want to share something extremely interesting I came across some days ago: The Elements- in relation to intelligence! The Element of Air The intellect in every man is God. MENANDER…

A Little Sleep

A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands.. A little too much chocolate, a little too much cheese and wine, a little too much indulgence.. Getting carried away. Isn’t this how it always starts? Isn’t that how we always get trapped? The secret is always in the detail, the little things…

Someone Who..

You know how they say, “You may not remember what people say, but you will always remember how they made you feel“? Well, it is true. And recently, I’ve been thinking (as I usually do; iThink) about this very issue.. the way people have made me feel. I have a somewhat impersonal relationship with negative feelings, so I…

My Mother’s Pain

As we grow up, get older and start building our own lives, we tend to forget just how much others have given up in order for us to be who we are. Of course, nature has its way of making sure we eventually make similar sacrifices for others, but let’s still take time out to…

I Want to Fall in Love

I have a friend I love very much. That friend is as lovely as can be. That friend is a girl. And she is just like me. She was born on a faithful Sunday.. On September 28; just like myself And yes, in the year of our Lord 1986 as well. We call each other “Twinny“….

A Nest of Love and Gentleness

“To make conversation, to share a joke, to perform mutual acts of kindness, to read together well-written books,  to share in trifling and in serious matters, to disagree without animosity- just as a person debates with himself- and in the very rarity of disagreement to find the salt of normal harmony, to teach each other…

While I Still Can..

Doing this has been on my mind for a very long time; so today, I AM. This will not be a beautifully written post, it will simply be one from my heart. **** “A Tribute to My Friend Ayo/ Joy/ Peace/ Hate. Just to tell him/her how much I loved her. You will never be…

Circle of Friends..

“Twenty children can never play together for twenty years.” ~ Michael Adelowo A very unfortunate- yet true- saying, popular amongst many Nigerians: things, season, cycles, and relationships simply constantly change. This is particularly true as relating human relationships. How many of us- growing up- believed we would forever be close to our second grade best…

What Would YOU Do?

Today I am sharing a short excerpt from yesterday’s entry on The John Maxwell Company. I am sharing the intro, but am encouraging you to click on this link and read the rest. You certainly will not regret it. Enjoy… and pOnder! The following moral/ethical dilemma supposedly was included on an actual job application: You…

Good-bye..

She smiled at first; then- looking at me- frowned. It was a different frown- not sad; not really anyway. It showed ambivalence. Her expression did not portrait uncertainty as to whether what she was about to do was right or wrong; it was an expression suggesting anxiety and hope, fear in the midst of joy. In…

Happy Birthday, Aunty Franka!!!

Today is my big(gest) sister’s birthday; and this is intended to show her some eL–Oh-Vee-Ee! Happy Birthday, Frances!! I wish you all the best today and always. May this year mark the beginning of new things in your life. New things.. new beginnings.. new opportunities.. new blessings. May all the Lord has said concerning your…

My Best Friend

..does not exist.. anymore. At least not as that. Today I want to speak from my heart. I had one.. once. Well, to be honest, I’ve had a few. To be exact: two. I’ll speak about her first; although he existed before her. They are both equally important- in very different ways. They both shaped me…..

Happy Birthday, Mikoko!!

I’d be a horrible sister not to publicly- and for the entire world and universe to see- acknowledge the birth of my baby. My sweetheart, my jewel, my love, my darling, my honey-bunch, my silk umbrella, my mahogany stool, my French velvet chaise-longue, my treasure.. mon petit frère: Michael Makinwa, aka the hottest boy in tOwn (Vienna…

Happy Birthday, Champagne!!

It’s my sister’s 26th birthday; so this is a personal message to her. Dearest Sola, I wish you a very Happy Birthday! May the good Lord bless and prosper you in all your ways, increase you on all sides; and cause you to find favour wherever you go. May your life be a testimony, an…