Cheating Husbands: Mistresses and Secret Kids

Last night a friend contacted me with the shocking revelation of a “secret child”. Not hers, that is, but that of a close relative. A couple of years ago this revelation would have shocked me and caused my heart to beat just a little faster. Not last night, however. I sighed, reflected, and went about my…

Congratulations, Jeny & Arun!

Last weekend was a super special day and I would’t have missed it for the world! One of my dearest and most precious beautiful friends, Jeny, got hitched in Vienna! Well, in a way anyway.. She celebrated her (Indian) engagement and it really was an extremely wonderful affair! I was probably as excited as I…

Delayed Reaction..

When I cycled back to my dorm this afternoon, the sunny weather was a perfect reflection of my mood. A brief night and successful presentation behind me, I looked forward to lying down for a while and rest, before heading out again. However, the warm weather no longer reflects my mood. It now mocks me. Although…

No Longer Searching..

I was rummaging through some unpublished drafts of months and years passed, when I realized how truly satisfying it was to write down your thoughts and share your challenges and/or experiences. Truth is, from the standpoint of now, my previously published post is untrue. For right now I am missing no one and am longing for nothing. Right…

How Do You..?

How do you erase memories of moments not experienced, words not exchanged, feelings not shared? How do you forget someone who never really cared? Someone you were never allowed to love?   Well, I guess you don’t…   I miss him- still But I won’t say. I’ll simply wait for the pain to go away. Perhaps…

A Different Chicken & A Different Egg..

I am the least qualified to talk about the origin of mankind (yes, you guessed it; this- of course- is quite the hyperbole and, frankly speaking, a blatant lie) but I want to talk about the origin of things anyway. Not that of the earth or humanity (I couldn’t care less to defend creationism or refute…

Some More Love Is In The Air

My week back in Austria has been quite stressful. From sorting out some legal issues, to finally getting my luggage, unpacking, rearranging my wardrobe, going shopping, and looking for new furniture for my room, I somehow did manage to attend a wedding!! Being back home really is quite awesome. Although it does get a bit…

This Single Life..

Just last night I had another “emotional breakdown” as I discussed my single-status with family and friends: This single life is just not it! ..and to be honest, I really do hate it when married people encourage me to “enjoy this season of your life” for obvious reasons.. If it were that great indeed, surely you…

Love, Romance.. Marriage!

Just a couple of days ago I had this heated discussion with my Head of Department of the Discipleship Training Institute of my church. Our topic of discussion: marriage. He had asked the lady seated beside me – a friend of mine – whether she could marry a Catholic, and was appalled at her resounding response of…

Consistency..

Consistent in your own right, you are.. I said.  In your own right. So wrong. Consistent? Here we stood, sat, spoke after many years. Through the screen he could not see, could not sense my tears. My fears. Not the slightest regret? He thought I was too lively, too full-on, too life-embracing. Too adventurous, too…

I Love You! I Think…

I did some more thinking last night. I did so, naturally, as I had to do something with myself while lying on my bed.. alone. And so I thought about this guy.. and as I did, I think I fell in love with him. Literally, figuratively, imaginarilly.. call it whatever, but there sha was that…

Love is Always There.. Somewhere

There are two things I find particularly attractive about the concept of friendship: honesty and loyalty. The beauty of honesty lies in the face of truth; while the beauty of loyalty lies in companionship. I like to believe I am a rather good friend to have.. I am honest, and well.. always there. But I…

It Matters Whom You Marry | Quotes

I just came across thechristianpundit and so totally fell in love with a number of their posts; one of them being It Matters Whom You Marry. While the first one addresses the women, the second one addresses the men-folk. I’ve written much on love, relationships and marriage; so today, I want to encourage you to…

One Forgives to The Degree That One Loves

I stumbled upon The Lovumentary just a few moments ago and thought to share a few things/truths. Nate Bagley, who was sick of hearing love stories that fell into one of two categories — scandal and divorce, and unrealistic fairytale, took his savings, toured the country, and interviewed real couples on all issues related to love…

How much LOVE are YOU feeling today?

I really wasn’t going to write anything remotely related to LOVE today. Not because I am single and would rather this day did not exist and/or mean anything to anyone else until my own marital status changed; not because I really have no plans for today other than drop my sister at the salon (she’s…

On to the Next..

While preparing for this post- and attempting to arrange my thoughts- I decided to research the History of Speed-Dating. When and why did it start, and by whom? The concept of a formalized matchmaking-process or dating-system with the sole aim of encouraging people to meet a large number of new people within a relatively short space…

Beautiful Lagos | Speed-Dating!

Alright, so the highlight of my weekend was definitely last night’s speed-dating event at Whitespaces in Ikoyi! In the spirit of Doing Something Radical, I decided it was time to get off my lazy-bum and actually do something. If I wasn’t going to be found in my bedroom, I reckoned I would probably doing myself…

The Wisdom of The Ages

I love underwear. And even more than that, I love lingerie. And because I love it, I buy it.. whenever I can. An unhealthy relationship with money..? Anyway, so just a few days before moving to Lagos I (naturally) went lingerie-shopping. Upon Returning home, I walked into my parents bedroom, Daddy, see what I got. (holding…

Guilty as Charged..?

“Anyway, so yeah, I understood that it would be difficult for him to stay in a relationship without sex. I mean, we were both young good-looking adults in love. Let’s show and share the love we profess, right? After all, that’s what the world keeps telling us. And mind you, he was a Christian too!…

The Different Levels of (AB)Normal(ity)

Alright, so the weirdest thing ever happened to me on Tuesday. Well, weirdest thing is probably exaggerated; however, it all did look and sound and feel very very strange indeed. A friend and I were supposed to watch a movie on Tuesday and agreed to meet up well before the movie. Long story short, I…

What Turns YOU On?

Alright, so, just a couple of days ago, a friend and I spoke about our wishes and wants regarding our husbands-to-be and she laughed at my statement. Okay, let me quote myself here just to be very very clear, I need a connection on three levels: Spirit- I want us to connect on a spiritual level,…

A Promise Remembered

I wouldn’t call it a breakdown per se, but a rather harsh awakening anyway. Does it ever happen to you? Has it ever? * * * I just spent a brief moment praying and a few minutes crying. How could I have forgotten? Sometimes you do not realize just how far you’ve strayed until you’ve…

The Sweetest Taboo..?

I am not one to condone sin, no. Me? No, not ever! However, I am one to often enter into it. Not “fall” you see, as I hardly ever trip. I make decisions, more or less well informed, and then decide to face the consequences. I wish. More often than not, the real effects of…

An Unusual (Fl)air of Honesty and (Im)modesty

Some pretty interesting things have happened over the past couple of days. I wasn’t sure what name to give this post initially, as I had a couple of working titles; but I shall try and work them into this post as best I can. I think I’m a really cool person. At least I think so most…

Threesomes in Marriages

The games girls play. I wanted to talk to him. Of course I did. But beyond that, I wanted him to desperately want to talk to me. He had sent a message and I had read it, but I wasn’t going to reply.. not yet anyway. But then again, I didn’t want him to think I…

In just a few days..

I love this life! Not just mine.. but life in general. The concept, its reality. I wouldn’t wish it any differently. There is something about times and seasons, you know. Something about experiencing pain and seeing its gain. With all the tears and hurt and cries and fears, it does bring a lot of pleasure….

Emotions Like Tides

I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I really don’t know. I just know there is something wrong. How desperately I wished I knew what it was.. and what to do about it. how to get over it.. How to get over me. Why can’t I just be normal?!? Don’t ask me what “normal” is…..

Mr. & Mrs. Ore!!

Alright so I have been very busy spending time with family and friends who flew in for my sister’s wedding. It would be a lie to say anything other than we’ve all been having an absolutely awesome time!! I’ve been a bit of a boring Mary since I moved to Lagos, so what better time…

The Real Man: Out of The Field and into The Garden!

Editor’s Note: Just a couple of days ago I asked my friend Toyin to write something for this blog. We both love LOVE and so it came as no big surprise that it would be at the center of what she decided to share with you and me. The wonderful thing about love, and really everything…

Your ALL?!

Generally speaking, and with the little I’ve seen in this brief life of mine, I’d say he’s weak. Oh, sorry. I’m, talking about MAN! The man, as referring to the human being in general, rather than any gender in specific. Man wicked or just weak? *** Of recent, I’ve been giving it my all. Well, him my all. Not Him, but…

Care? Then Dare To SHARE..

Status: It’s complicated? And really, as complicated as it gets; and then, not really that. Life. Work. Relationships. Circumstances. Situations. They. You. We. I. Complexities wherever we look. It is as simple as that: complications are a vital part of life. And yet we all seek to run from them.. All the time. As often…

A State of Constant Desire..

Sometimes I truly marvel at just how accurate the Bible is. We tend to disagree with things we don’t understand; things we’ve not yet personally experienced; things that seem strange or foreign to us. We are all like that. I still am, sometimes… Denying the existence of things, simply because my two huge eye(ball)s have…

What’s It Really All About!?

Sometimes, when passion takes over, it is good to remind oneself of what it is really all about. Of recent, I’ve been looking at myself getting soaked into a whirlwind of the aforementioned, finding it exremely difficult to “remain holy”, to resist. There is nothing wrong with having such feelings, I strongly believe, as they…

When Love Makes Sense..

Being in love is a wonderful thing. Knowing you’re not walking alone. The excitement, the butterflies, the getting-to-know-each-other, the dreams, imaginations, wishes for the future. The things you tell yourself and each other, the castles you build in the skies, the expectations you have of and for another. It’s all so surreal. You know you…

Could This Be Love?

This year started on the highest note ever for me! Just recently I was discussing “life” with my Tomatoe-baby (Toyin, that is) and discussed how funny it was that out of the two things so important to me (love and career) I had none just a few weeks ago.. But now, come 2013, the Lord…

Confession V

I guess I like you more than I can show and I just wanted you to know.

Confession IV

Although I love my drama-crown, Your sheer presence calms me down..

Confession III

Your character makes up for both your weaknesses and mine.

Confession II

You’ve found enough you want to keep? I need you to search, and dig deep..

Confession I

I am desperate to share, but first need to know you care..

Fighting Temptations

“Do I look okay?”He had rushed; he was panting.Could he sense my hesitation? My, he did look enchanting! Tonight I longed to do wrong; The urge to give in too strong. For once to finally let go, and just go with the flow. A sudden desire. For his spirit: He loved the Lord. For his soul: His…

Finding The Grey

Sometimes I come across write-ups online that I just love.. a lot! Knowing there is no way certain posts will always be available on the net (changed urls, deleted sites, expired links etc.) I have learnt to not only bookmark stuff I really love, but indeed saving them locally (that is, on my computer) too….

First Wife

I don’t know why I feel the need to share this, but I do; and so I shall.. This post might absolutely or again not at all have a point; but that hardly matters. Head > Heart or Heart > Head? * * * Love is a funny thing, you know. I’m sure you agree. I’m…

A Question of Submission

We both walked away shaking our heads. Both, being Toyin Tomatoe and myself. Having spent some time at Westfield Stratford (it was my last evening before flying back to Vienna) and having had dinner, we bumped into Timi (name changed). It was the day after my sister’s wedding and I- wondering why he and his…

Time to shO(w)dem!!

I apologize for my absence! However, I have had a very good reason for it: my sister’s wedding! I got to London Friday before last and was busy preparing for the hen night and still sorting out the bridal shower with Toyin Tomatoe (both were absolutely amazing!! Sorry but I shall not share pictures (for…