My Very Own Pulpit

The past two months have been very interesting; not exclusively because I went MIA (I do apologize for that.. to those who noticed and actually truly care) but because it has indeed been an interesting season. I travelled to Switzerland and had a really great time; I started my Master’s degree, and have been acing all…

Cash Point. Check-Point? Gun Point!

Yesterday I woke up with a profound sense of gratitude. I was excited. Simply excited about life. My last days at work, the beginning of a new journey. Back to student life. Back to autumn, cold and winter. Back to going home. I was simply excited. Yesterday, I had no needs. I felt no lack….

The Incubator

Just a few days ago, I once again thought about women. The woman-man, that is: the man with a womb. The person- be it male or female- with the ability to conceive, nurture, give birth to, grow/train and protect dreams. Dreams are really not very different from children: They are mentally conceived: a vision, picture of what could (or…

Things I Like to <3..

We all have things we love.. Food we eat more of than we should. Clothes we wear. Places we go to. Friends we talk to. But there are also those things we think we could love if only allowed to. Call them dreams, wishes, hopes, aspirations. There are a few things I have had the…

Whispers from My Heart

Call it balance. Sometimes unexplainable things happen. I say unexplainable because- although you try to explain what’s going on to people- you know that no one really gets it, no one really fully understands. But that’s okay. I just feel like being real and honest, transparent, readable, naked tonight.. Tonight I want to share some…

An Epigram on Friendship

How sweet is friendship to the friendless wretch!  ‘Tis like a draught that cools a parched tongue:  A faithful friend’s indeed a heavenly gift,  But few can suffer for a neighbour’s wrong;  For friendship fails to feel when self becomes so strong. I just found myself reading through some old email-threads – conversations with friends – and cannot help…

Excessive Vanity Shots

I’m not excessively vain. I like to believe there is not an ounce of vanity to be found in me, my entire universal being. I’d like to believe.. I’m not excessively proud of any particular achievements or abilities, really. I’m not. At least not excessively. I like to believe.. I’m not excessively conceited about my intelligence,…

Diagnosed with Cancers..

I promise you, I had absolutely no idea today was World Cancer Day, when I got ready to share yet another personal story of my journey upon mother earth with you.. * * * They’ve diagnosed breast cancer, I was told. And if that wasn’t enough, ovarian cancer too. Early stages, apparently, so there wasn’t…

A Place (Once) Called Home..

Feeling ambivalent. Not confused, just unsure about what exactly it is I feel. Unusual excitement. I don’t think I’ve ever missed London this much, and yet the thought of travelling soon, stepping my foot back on British soil again, fills me with trepidation. A different kind of anticipation. But why? I’m not quite sure. Perhaps…

Little Droplets..

Remember that dream of yours? Yes, that one you’re sometimes ashamed to admit you’re still thinking of, secretly holding on to. That dream that simply won’t go away. A picture painted in abstract colours and yet so clear and plain in your mind. That vision you once saw but is threatening to fade away. Remember…

Like A Phoenix..

Sometimes I just wish I could stop. Push the pause button. Take a break from being Self. Being heavy and feeling full. So mind-full and thought-full. Wit-full; so drama-full. Sometimes I want to be nothing at all. Empty. Hollow. Light. “You think too much. Way too much..” he whispered. I knew he was right but…

Ranti, The Ultimate

I’m going to write a short story again. No, wrong, I shall write much more than merely one. I shall write quite a few. I’m excited. That writing-mood has finally caught me again. Being angry and irritated/ irritable does that to you. It opens your eye. Makes you see possibilities, how things could or should…

The Art of Journeying Alone..

Businesses. Friendships. Relationships. They are all partnerships. Unions made alive and effective through the joining of at least two. People enter into relationships for numerous reasons. For benefits and perks. Love and acceptance. For companionship. For understanding. But never really for simply being. “Can two work together unless they agree?” In a partnership I want…

Friends for Life..?

It must have been about two weeks ago I put our picture up on BB. “Our” picture being a picture of both of us. A silly one. I loved it, totally. Having skipped through some old picture(file)s on my phone, I didn’t think it much of a deal when I decided “we” would be my…

Easier Said Than Done

Most often it doesn’t hit you immediately.. The depth of the ocean. The gravity of a situation. The power of a decision. The difficulty of alteration.. You don’t really fully realize it at first but IT. can be. HARD! You look, you leap. You jump, you fall. What next but to simply try and move…

Welcome to Lagos!!

Hey guys! It’s been such an awfully long time since I blogged last, and I’ve missed it sincerely. I really don’t have much time to write.. but I am in Lagos now and am somewhat already quite liking it! 😀 Although it hasn’t been a week, I (want to) believe I have settled in well…

Living Life In A Cell

This post was inspired by Burna Boy’s Freedom, recent events, and many memories; some of which I’m going to share with you today. The bold italic lines are his lyrics. * * * Problem, problem, problems. Could somebody show me a way that I can solve them? They calling police and they’re saying that I rubbed…

Behind The Scenes

What actually meets the eyes is always just a fraction of what really happens.. behind the scenes! We enjoy watching movies in cinemas; they are usually 90mins long, and we are often ignorant of how stressful the making of the movie must have been. We care little about its production, the recruiting of the cast,…

First Wife

I don’t know why I feel the need to share this, but I do; and so I shall.. This post might absolutely or again not at all have a point; but that hardly matters. Head > Heart or Heart > Head? * * * Love is a funny thing, you know. I’m sure you agree. I’m…

Your Own Shall Be Next

Exciting times! I’m in London right now; having an awesome- and very busy- time preparing for friday’s event: my sister Sola’s wedding! Just a few weeks ago we were all (all, being my nuclear family minus baby bro, he had exams, and a few other hundreds) in Nigeria, celebrating her traditional wedding; and now we…

Good For Many Things..

I want to believe I looked beautiful.. even covered in tears. I pulled the blanket over my head as I examined those seated to my left and to my right. No, I would not have them look at me, ask me questions, laugh at me. I just needed some ME-time. I hate sitting in the…

On Sex And Hormones

Remember how God created man? So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. (Gen. 1:27) Well, God Himself was referring to me.. ( ._.) Remember how I always say “there is no such thing as coincidence” and “everything happens for a reason”?…

She Was Raped Too..

Disclaimer: If you thought any of my previous posts were too personal and it made you feel a bit uneasy, this one will do the same. Please refrain from reading on! To those who chose to continue: Please share! Whether they are black or white, beautiful or distracting, believers or atheists, there is something everyone…

Naked and Unashamed

Yesterday I sent out a message on BB which read the following, Please answer truthfully: You’re not a virgin and the person you’re courting is not either. Do you need/want to know how many persons she has been with in the past or would you rather not? Whatever your answer, Why? And when is the…

This Is Me

Someone said my blog was too personal: I didn’t know what to say. Maybe I’ll have a reply on another day. I like to think of it as my bible in a way; my words are all a reflection of me. Why not just get to know and see? In all honesty, I really don’t know…

Drawing a Parallel or Drawing a Line?

I have this lovely friend of mine who is still (or should I say, again) single and searching; and no, this “friend of mine” is really NOT me. Anyway, so, she was dating this really “lovely” (according to her, obviously) guy and had been wondering- and indeed asking- where this relationship was heading. You see,…

I Think, Therefore I Am…Really?

We’ve all head or read of them: earth, water, fire and air. But how many of us have given it any more thought? Today, I want to share something extremely interesting I came across some days ago: The Elements- in relation to intelligence! The Element of Air The intellect in every man is God. MENANDER…

Miss.Understood

Relationships are funny, you know. Especially those between non-related individuals. There is so much learning and understanding to be done. Funny thing is, people stress more over being understood, than doing some understanding themselves. We care much about our intentions, minimizing our actions; while at the same time judging others based on how they act,…

Someone Who..

You know how they say, “You may not remember what people say, but you will always remember how they made you feel“? Well, it is true. And recently, I’ve been thinking (as I usually do; iThink) about this very issue.. the way people have made me feel. I have a somewhat impersonal relationship with negative feelings, so I…

Things That Make Me Smile

I’ve had a few really awesome ideas for short-stories in my head but I fear the idea might be much more beautiful than the completed work, and so: you must wait for it. Tarry a bit; be patient with me.. and I shall write the vision down on paper. See what I did there? \(°▽°)/ Anyhow…..

Brothers Behind Bars

Another post that’s going to be more personal than beautiful; but oh well.. since I can, I will.. A couple of days ago (He Heals Me) I announced that I would soon share another short-story, with its message surprisingly much in line with one of India Arie’s beautiful songs I’ve been hooked on lately. Today,…

My Mother’s Pain

As we grow up, get older and start building our own lives, we tend to forget just how much others have given up in order for us to be who we are. Of course, nature has its way of making sure we eventually make similar sacrifices for others, but let’s still take time out to…

Dear Future Husband

My Kachi wanted me to share a letter to my future husband. This is me doing precisely that.. writing to YOU! *** Dear Future Husband, I am super excited about writing today. Well, not this day in particular, but writing you in general. I hope you don’t mind me publishing this for the entire world…

#Throwback

I almost had to pee in my pants, going through and selecting these pictures. I just want to take a moment to earnestly thank God for my life… *minute of silence*. I absolutely do not understand where I got my confidence from, why people cared to be seen with my in public, why men showed…

The (Pre-Salvation) Questionnaire

Ok, today I’m answering a questionnaire I actually wrote to/for a friend. Some questions (and their answers) will sound familiar (21 Questions) but I didn’t want to change/edit too much; so bare with me. Btw, feel free to answer these questions yourself.. and share! No one will judge.. (iHope) lol. Here you go: A) On…

Counting Your Losses..

Things happen for different reasons.. I’ve been in a bit of a shock recently. I’ll try and keep it brief. There’s been someone I’ve been friendly with for just a few months; call him a new but very special friend. For simplicity’s sake, let’s just call that friend Bawze. Anyway, so Bawze and I have been friendly,…

21 Questions (III): Relationships

1. Are you in a serious relationship right now? Why/ why not? Nope. Haven’t been in a relationship in years now. If I thought hard enough about it (which I- being me, a hopeful romantic- have obviously done lol), I’d come up with a million and one reasons why that is so. On a serious note though, I’ve been a…

21 Questions (II): Honesty

1. Would you consider yourself an honest/truthful person? Yes, absolutely. Painfully honest, actually. 2. Would others agree? Yup. I’ve even been encouraged to learn how to sugar-coat the truth a bit.. numerously! 3. How do you define truthfulness? The quality of being unbiased, truthful, upright and fair- even when it costs me or a loved…

21 Questions (I): Thoughts

1. How do you think? I think patterns, connections, links. I think reasons, causes, effects. I think purpose and impact. I think big picture. 2. Do you enjoy your thoughts? I do, immensely so. I enjoy them much more than I do conversations. 3. Do you talk to yourself? Yup, and that very often! Not…

Marrying for Love..?

Someone recently asked me about my take on the famous “Settling” post which I re-blogged here. I haven’t responded to it yet, but I’ll share a few of my thoughts/opinions on marriage right here, right now. I’ll try and keep it relatively short.. I see marriage as a reflection. A reflection of many things: 1….

The (Kind of) People I Know

Sometimes I feel the need to pause, look at myself, take stock of my life and the people therein, and just shake my head.  At times I laugh, other times I cry. Often I scratch my head too, or simply lower my gaze. But every single time, really, I shudder and wonder.. and feel sorry for…

My Struggle: Serving Two Masters

Disclaimer: This is going to be a highly controversial post. If you think you cannot deal with controversy, you probably can’t. Please, do not read any further. **** We all have this one struggle. Especially so in areas that really matter. There’s always that one thing contesting for our attention, our heart, our focus. Quietly,…

My Delectation…

I am not ashamed to admit that there are some things I am not proud of. With all my weaknesses and strengths, I have- over the years- come to understand and and indeed accept that there are a few things that will never change. About the world.. certain people.. situations.. conditions. While there are things…

My Best Friend

..does not exist.. anymore. At least not as that. Today I want to speak from my heart. I had one.. once. Well, to be honest, I’ve had a few. To be exact: two. I’ll speak about her first; although he existed before her. They are both equally important- in very different ways. They both shaped me…..

On Friendships and Acquaintances…

First of all, a BIG THANK YOU to all my friends and acquaintances who acknowledged the day of my birth and dropped me a line on my blog, texted me, or even called *sob sob*; the love was much and very appreciated!! *blows kisses* To get to today’s post: Over the past few mins, hours,…