Simply.Raw.Bakery

Catching up with friends is always so interesting! Just yesterday my sister and I decided to visit a friend’s vegan bakery store located in a quirky side-road of the heart of Vienna, Am Hof. Although no such thing as an African vegetarian (let alone vegan) exists, I do see myself making quite a few visits to the…

Some More Love Is In The Air

My week back in Austria has been quite stressful. From sorting out some legal issues, to finally getting my luggage, unpacking, rearranging my wardrobe, going shopping, and looking for new furniture for my room, I somehow did manage to attend a wedding!! Being back home really is quite awesome. Although it does get a bit…

Cash Point. Check-Point? Gun Point!

Yesterday I woke up with a profound sense of gratitude. I was excited. Simply excited about life. My last days at work, the beginning of a new journey. Back to student life. Back to autumn, cold and winter. Back to going home. I was simply excited. Yesterday, I had no needs. I felt no lack….

The Incubator

Just a few days ago, I once again thought about women. The woman-man, that is: the man with a womb. The person- be it male or female- with the ability to conceive, nurture, give birth to, grow/train and protect dreams. Dreams are really not very different from children: They are mentally conceived: a vision, picture of what could (or…

No Longer Chasing..

I dreamt about him last night. Yes, him. Again. But this time, I woke up differently. Indifferent. Having given up a night for him, I refused to give him a(ny more) moment(s) of my day(s). Determinedly. No longer chasing. And so I thought about things I would rather think of. Consciously making the effort to…

Beautiful Lagos | La Campagne Tropicana

As I’m getting ready to once again relocate, I am consciously making an effort to enjoy every single (of my remaining) moment(s) in Lagos. With Ramadan over, the extra-long weekend (aka brief holiday) was spent relaxing both in- and outdoors: My pumpkins and I decided to finally visit La Campagne Tropicana! From us finding a…

The Message of Invincible Consolation

The fiery furnaces are there by God’s direct permission. It is misleading to imagine that we are developed in spite of our circumstances; we are developed because of them. It is mastery in circumstances that is needed, not mastery over them.

This Single Life.. II

Most well-meaning people are just liars. Most often- I have come to see, understand and believe- however, that lies are told with good intentions. Well, that is, not ill-intentions anyway. Most often- when people lie- they really just mean to protect you, shield you from the truth. Bitterness. And so they bring tidings that result in fake…

This Single Life..

Just last night I had another “emotional breakdown” as I discussed my single-status with family and friends: This single life is just not it! ..and to be honest, I really do hate it when married people encourage me to “enjoy this season of your life” for obvious reasons.. If it were that great indeed, surely you…

Happy Birthday, lOvlies!

The birthdays just seem to be rolling in this (rainy) season, but we’ll laugh and celebrate right in the midst of the storm (literally) anyway.. Today’s my Tomatoe’s birthday; on Sunday was Gb’s! Wishing you both a fantastic year ahead. May it be an awesome one indeed, filled with greatness, joy and peace. Above all, may it…

Singing Songs..

Sometimes I find it difficult to pray. I just don’t know what to say. Tell Him how I feel, share my pain? Sometimes it all just seems so in vain. But that’s okay, because right in the midst of not wanting to share ME, I am forced to remember Him. Right in the midst of feeling…

Exhausted..?

“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.” – Martin Luther King Jr.

Development, Not Fulfilment

Leadership Development, Not Fulfillment “Leaders can’t afford to make fools of themselves, gulping wine and swilling beer, lest, hung over, they don’t know right from wrong, and the people who depend on them are hurt.”  Proverbs 31:4-5 (The Message) Beginning in the late 60s and early 70s, people began talking about “finding themselves,” meaning that they…

Roots and Sources

Discomfort stretches you. It challenges you. It’s more than okay to feel this way. We all get uncomfortable at time. Discomfort causes you to think. To be creative. Step out of the box, Try and do the new. Discomfort is good. At times, a welcomed pain. But there are different types of pain. There is…

Afropolitan Vibes!

Just a few pictures of another lovely night out at Afropolitan Vibes!

Lagos Wine Club

Every yearly quarter the MD of Exxon hosts a group of wine-lovers to pre-taste an exclusive new (American and/or South African, or any company really that wishes to sponsor) wine. It really always is a delightful evening of live music, small-chops, people and- yes- wines! Last weekend was another such event sponsored by the South African wine…

Normal Days..

On normal days I do not worry about what others might think or see. I feel no shame or insecurity. On normal days, I’m happy, I’m free. On days like these, I’m at ease with being me. On normal days I do not worry about tomorrow. I feel no gloom, no condemnation. I smile, I laugh….

The Greatest Good..

according to Benjamin Disraeli, ..you can do for another is not just to share your riches, but to reveal to him his own. Just a couple of days ago- a week and two days to be precise- a friend asked me what would or could make me fall in love with someone. I smiled at…

Reflexions

Sometimes when I’m in a sober and reflective mood, ready and hungry and thirsty for mental food, something to inspire me, I simply read up quotes from people who have made a difference; be that in my life or on a national/global scale. One of these persons today is Benjamin Disraeli. Some of his quotes…

#BringBackOurGirls

Of recent I was reminded of a beautifully deep quote, Do not look upon me, because I am dark,Because the sun has tanned me.My mother’s sons were angry with me;They made me the keeper of the vineyards,But my own vineyard I have not kept. How often do we find ourselves busy doing all but the right things? Misplaced priorities….

Love, Romance.. Marriage!

Just a couple of days ago I had this heated discussion with my Head of Department of the Discipleship Training Institute of my church. Our topic of discussion: marriage. He had asked the lady seated beside me – a friend of mine – whether she could marry a Catholic, and was appalled at her resounding response of…

Presence

Sometimes pain isn’t necessarily bad. A sign of His displeasure and absence. Sometimes pleasure isn’t necessarily good. A sign of His commendation and pleasure. Sometimes pain and pleasure simple are. I guess I am once again reminded- call it a Stone of Remembrance- that neither pleasure nor pain are permanent. ..and that right in the…

Silence

Sometimes your heart is weary; sometimes your heart is weak. Sometimes you want to talk about it, while at other times you don’t. ..but it is always nice to be asked.  

The Death of The Church

I know a whole lot about churches. You see, I grew up catholic. Okay, that’s not totally true. I think it better to say I attended catholic kindergartens, pre-schools, primary schools and secondary schools. They were simply the best. They usually are- run by the church. And, as a schools run by nuns, masses and…

Response/Rely-Ability

One of my greatest frustrations with living in Nigeria- amidst Nigerians (allow my generalization)- has been their inability to complete work to a high/basic/expected standard. Reliability. Especially when working with a team of intelligent people and delegating tasks according to stated skills, I find it extremely saddening to find that work has to be re-checked,…

Money 101: Personal Finance and Money Management Basics

I know you really do not want to hear this; and especially not from me, but your parents were right: START SAVING NOW! I know your parents were right about this, because mine were, and parents really are not that different from each other. The chunk of us have parents who worked hard enough for…

Consistency..

Consistent in your own right, you are.. I said.  In your own right. So wrong. Consistent? Here we stood, sat, spoke after many years. Through the screen he could not see, could not sense my tears. My fears. Not the slightest regret? He thought I was too lively, too full-on, too life-embracing. Too adventurous, too…

..and God said, “Let’s play!”

Sometimes I really wonder just how intelligent intelligent men really are. How intelligent, knowledgeable, wise, understanding insightful intelligent Christians are. I wondered about human thought-processes, conceptions, ideas. I thought about the spheres of life. The earth and the spirit world. Life and death. Angels and demons. ..and I came to powerfully humbling conclusions. Some of…

Tweet-Sized Opinions

One of my most favourite quotes of recent times simply has to be Harlan Ellison’s “You are not entitled to your opinion. You are entitled to your informed opinion. No one is entitled to be ignorant.” Although it sounds a bit harsh, I cannot but second that statement. Many of us seek to be heard over hearing….

#Throwback Wednesday

Just before returning to Vienna a few weeks ago, my mom dropped a suitcase here in Lagos. A case packed with baby clothes.. our baby clothes, that she had kept over the years; or rather: all these years! Apparently she shipped the box down to Nigeria a few years ago, and now -seeing as we are all…

So uncontrollably in Love!!

You know this feeling.. how you get butterflies at the thought of someone you hold very dearly? How your heart skips a beat at memories remembered and shared, and future-possibilities hoped for, desired? You know how your longing emotions are so powerful and strong, so over-whelming and over-powering at times, the earth seems to simply stand…

The Blueprint of Me

There are so many things going on in my mind right now, so permit a scattered post. An outward reflection of my inner self; my heart and my mind. The blueprint of ME. You know how you make a mistake, go astray, then again find your way? You know the hurt that you create and the…

More Food for Thought..

God’s grace has a drenching about it. A wildness about it. A white-water, riptide, turn-you-upside-downness about it. Grace comes after you. It rewires you. From insecure to God-secure. From regret-riddled to better-because-of-it. From afraid-to-die to ready-to-fly. Grace is the voice that calls us to change and gives us the power to pull it off. – Max…

Food for Thought..

Treat a man as he appears to be and you make him worse. But treat a man as if he already were what he potentially could be, and you make him what he should be. – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe How do people feel around you? As John C Maxwell beautifully put it, the key to…

Masterclass with Chef Fregz!

On Saturday the Food Network (our connect group for foodies at myWaterbrook) had an awesome time with Gbubemi Fregene, or as he is popularly known: Chef Fregz! Quite a few of you would have had the privilege of enjoying one of his amazing creations at the Chef Fregz Special which he typically hosts at the GET Arena…

Back to Square ONE..?

I remember a conversation I had with a good friend (actually my oldest friend: I’ve known her since I was two years old) a couple of months ago. She was sharing that she was unsure about what to do with her life now that she felt she knew what she should have done ages ago….

Pole-Dancing Bridesmaids

After mid-week service last week, our pastor made a somewhat unusual announcement, reminding the ushers of why it was important to constantly be at alert and ward off any potential threats; ie. the distribution of unholy invitations/flyers. Turns out a group of people thought it fit to hand out “pole dancing classes”-flyers to church folks….

I Love You! I Think…

I did some more thinking last night. I did so, naturally, as I had to do something with myself while lying on my bed.. alone. And so I thought about this guy.. and as I did, I think I fell in love with him. Literally, figuratively, imaginarilly.. call it whatever, but there sha was that…

A Time to Laugh and a Time to Cry

I thought about some things today. Well, I generally do a lot of thinking, but I did so especially yesterday and today.. There is one who wants to come out top of his class, Another who simply wishes to pass his exams. There is one who wishes she was dating, Another who wished she could…

Love is Always There.. Somewhere

There are two things I find particularly attractive about the concept of friendship: honesty and loyalty. The beauty of honesty lies in the face of truth; while the beauty of loyalty lies in companionship. I like to believe I am a rather good friend to have.. I am honest, and well.. always there. But I…

Call Me “Small Mommy”

A friend’s mom passed away just a few days ago; and naturally- as you would assume and indeed expect any human being to feel about this- she is grieving. ..and it made me think: The cause of her grief.. No one ever really gives birth wishing to cause a beloved one grief. No one ever…

Things I Like to <3..

We all have things we love.. Food we eat more of than we should. Clothes we wear. Places we go to. Friends we talk to. But there are also those things we think we could love if only allowed to. Call them dreams, wishes, hopes, aspirations. There are a few things I have had the…

New Things and Places | Pleasure

I’m just about to shut down this pc, leave my office, head to church; but before I do that I want to share this.. ..a single reflection. A couple of years ago, when I was – well, a bit younger and probably not any less smart than I am now but definitely less independent- I…

An Open Letter

I am in tears and yet I smile..at my little yet strong broken heart. You took it and tore it in pieces.Sat on it and spat on it. And yet I have come to tell you that I forgive you.That I love you and that I miss you. I am saying this openly .. because I…

When Things Get Tough

It’s amazing how rough & tough things get when you choose to step outside of conventionality, asking Him to add some extra to your ordinary. It’s quite amazing how rough & tough things get when you step outside of the box and add some super to the natural. It really is all too exciting. Of recent…