Consistency..

Consistent in your own right, you are.. I said.  In your own right. So wrong. Consistent? Here we stood, sat, spoke after many years. Through the screen he could not see, could not sense my tears. My fears. Not the slightest regret? He thought I was too lively, too full-on, too life-embracing. Too adventurous, too…

The Blueprint of Me

There are so many things going on in my mind right now, so permit a scattered post. An outward reflection of my inner self; my heart and my mind. The blueprint of ME. You know how you make a mistake, go astray, then again find your way? You know the hurt that you create and the…

Pole-Dancing Bridesmaids

After mid-week service last week, our pastor made a somewhat unusual announcement, reminding the ushers of why it was important to constantly be at alert and ward off any potential threats; ie. the distribution of unholy invitations/flyers. Turns out a group of people thought it fit to hand out “pole dancing classes”-flyers to church folks….

Love is Always There.. Somewhere

There are two things I find particularly attractive about the concept of friendship: honesty and loyalty. The beauty of honesty lies in the face of truth; while the beauty of loyalty lies in companionship. I like to believe I am a rather good friend to have.. I am honest, and well.. always there. But I…

It Matters Whom You Marry | Quotes

I just came across thechristianpundit and so totally fell in love with a number of their posts; one of them being It Matters Whom You Marry. While the first one addresses the women, the second one addresses the men-folk. I’ve written much on love, relationships and marriage; so today, I want to encourage you to…

One Forgives to The Degree That One Loves

I stumbled upon The Lovumentary just a few moments ago and thought to share a few things/truths. Nate Bagley, who was sick of hearing love stories that fell into one of two categories — scandal and divorce, and unrealistic fairytale, took his savings, toured the country, and interviewed real couples on all issues related to love…

On to the Next..

While preparing for this post- and attempting to arrange my thoughts- I decided to research the History of Speed-Dating. When and why did it start, and by whom? The concept of a formalized matchmaking-process or dating-system with the sole aim of encouraging people to meet a large number of new people within a relatively short space…

The Art of Journeying Alone..

Businesses. Friendships. Relationships. They are all partnerships. Unions made alive and effective through the joining of at least two. People enter into relationships for numerous reasons. For benefits and perks. Love and acceptance. For companionship. For understanding. But never really for simply being. “Can two work together unless they agree?” In a partnership I want…

Threesomes in Marriages

The games girls play. I wanted to talk to him. Of course I did. But beyond that, I wanted him to desperately want to talk to me. He had sent a message and I had read it, but I wasn’t going to reply.. not yet anyway. But then again, I didn’t want him to think I…

The Power of Particular Words

I’m not a very particular person. I don’t really care that much. But I can be particular about a handful of things. Very particular, you see.. I particularly dislike jeans. Everyone knows that. That is, everyone who has ever had a deep and meaninful, life-changing and inspirational conversation with me. At the forefront of whatever topic or…

When Love Makes Sense..

Being in love is a wonderful thing. Knowing you’re not walking alone. The excitement, the butterflies, the getting-to-know-each-other, the dreams, imaginations, wishes for the future. The things you tell yourself and each other, the castles you build in the skies, the expectations you have of and for another. It’s all so surreal. You know you…

Confession V

I guess I like you more than I can show and I just wanted you to know.

Confession IV

Although I love my drama-crown, Your sheer presence calms me down..

Confession III

Your character makes up for both your weaknesses and mine.

Confession II

You’ve found enough you want to keep? I need you to search, and dig deep..

Confession I

I am desperate to share, but first need to know you care..

I Am My Beloved’s And My Beloved Is Mine

I like how some people think of me as completely immune to things as natural as eating and digesting; awakening and sleeping; burping and farting. I like how some people view me as this little innocent 6-year old, whose only concern- having plucked a bunch of lilies from the numerous flowers growing within her nana’s garden- is…

Naked and Unashamed

Yesterday I sent out a message on BB which read the following, Please answer truthfully: You’re not a virgin and the person you’re courting is not either. Do you need/want to know how many persons she has been with in the past or would you rather not? Whatever your answer, Why? And when is the…

No Other Remedy

Having read the letter over and over again, he too sat down to write.. *** Babe, We both know I’m much better in putting my words and thoughts down on paper; so I’ve chosen to write you this letter. We need to talk. I know these words scare you; today, they don’t have to. Not…

Dear Future Husband

My Kachi wanted me to share a letter to my future husband. This is me doing precisely that.. writing to YOU! *** Dear Future Husband, I am super excited about writing today. Well, not this day in particular, but writing you in general. I hope you don’t mind me publishing this for the entire world…

My Number One

I was smiling, as was he, but with tears in his eyes. His smile had begun to fade.. ages ago. To be honest, I feared it, but didn’t see it coming so soon. I knew he had something to say that wouldn’t be in my favour, ours. He was right. Another one Gone. I’m tired of moving on, but…

21 Questions (III): Relationships

1. Are you in a serious relationship right now? Why/ why not? Nope. Haven’t been in a relationship in years now. If I thought hard enough about it (which I- being me, a hopeful romantic- have obviously done lol), I’d come up with a million and one reasons why that is so. On a serious note though, I’ve been a…

A Special Kind of Love

Ope, Tunji, Ife, Ola, Wole and yes, even Olu. Who would have thought they would all really show up? Every single one of them. Tears of joy. She was grateful. They were the ones who really mattered. At least to her. Especially today. They were the ones who had truly known her; known her inside out, literally. Known…

Good-bye..

She smiled at first; then- looking at me- frowned. It was a different frown- not sad; not really anyway. It showed ambivalence. Her expression did not portrait uncertainty as to whether what she was about to do was right or wrong; it was an expression suggesting anxiety and hope, fear in the midst of joy. In…

Men of Wisdom: Selwyn Hughes (Marriage as God Intended III)

Who’s in charge? Q: If God has been calling men “head”, does that make them superior? A: No, in no wise! Before God man and woman stand as equals; however, with different functions. Although they are spiritually equal, they are not functionally. When the Lord presented Eve to Adam, he made it clear that she…

Men of Wisdom: Selwyn Hughes (Marriage as God Intended II)

How does God see it? “Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness, so that they may rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky, over the livestock and all the wild animals, and over all the creatures that move along the ground. So God created mankind…

Men of Wisdom: Selwyn Hughes (Marriage as God Intended)

Selwyn Hughes founded the Crusade for World Revival (CWR), a fundamentalist evangelical organisation, and wrote more than 50 books expounding the Bible and how to live a Christian life. He was described by the former Archbishop of Canterbury, Lord Carey, as a “giant in the faith”. Hughes was particularly known for his devotional Every Day with Jesus….

It Wasn’t Meant to.. (III)

He braced himself. Delivering the message wasn’t going to be an easy task. John gave himself an hour.. and another, before he called. “She’s gone!” He laughed.. “Gone, you said?” The laughter continued.. “And that would be to where exactly?” Laughing John’s phrase off- it was obviously meant as a joke- he continued, “Anyway, it’s…

It Wasn’t Meant to.. (II)

Leaving work, he had a weird feeling. Can’t put my finger on it.. but something’s wrong. He returned home earlier than usual. In a way he was trying to avoid what he knew was inevitable. An hour or two will hardly make a difference.. but I’d rather be there when.. When what? He didn’t know what exactly he was…

Juanita Bynum: The Do’s and Don’ts of Christian Dating

Being the woman that I am, I naturally had to- as I sadly do on a weekly basis- research the net on “Dating Tips/Advice for Christian Singles”. I’ve actually decided to share bits and pieces of what I’ve learnt (it is a lot!) during my “Forever Friends” class, headed by Pastor Michael Omawumi Efueye (Resident…

Dating Do’s & Don’ts

We all know how this works.. or at least have some basic idea. You’ve been invited to a party by a friend, or simply heard of a party and decide to show up (we’ve all done the “mo gbo mo ya” at some point in our life) and meet someone new- more or less interesting-…